Study: My Understanding of Conversations

Being the Force of Reason in a Chaotic Exchange

It has become clear that we live at a time when it is easier to disagree with so many people on so many things. You shall readily see this not just on social media, but also when people gather for festivities. These problems start the minute people strike a conversation. The power of words to hurt has always been there, but is now being felt on a new level.
This is what is killing the spirit of great conversations. There are more of us shying away from holding a conversation. But there are times when it is unavoidable. It is also important that we remember the power and beauty of conversation. This is what motivates the desire to learn more about the means of holding conversations that may turn bad.
We need to start by killing off the idea of opposing camps in every conversation. You can turn any topic into a potentially polarizing debate. This can be stopped when no one takes a side. You can also ask other people not to fall for that common trap. this could take you a while, but you can manage to do so with time.
You need to learn to take a breath each time you need to speak. You need to keep this in mind every time you have to peak in a charged environment. You need to wait your turn then till the other party is done speaking. Always check with them before you start to speak. Breathing helps you take away the bite in your words, and keeps your presentation objective.
It is best if you learn to ask a lot of questions. Questions lead to more productive discussions, and play to the vain side of the other person. You will also get time to regroup. The other person also gets to think beyond what they currently were. This is how you get the conversation to go beyond emotions to real solutions, and happier people participating in it. As it goes on; emotions shall continue to dwindle. You need to stick to questions that allow them to dig deeper into what they meant, and to also give you more examples. These questions enable you to learn more, and keep away the emotions.
It is best it the conversation ends with both parties in agreement. No one gains anything when it ends at an argument. Difficult conversations can, however, be steered towards a more agreeable conclusion. You can point out the things both parties agree on and focus on those as you draw to a close.
You shall use the tips shared here well when you remain an active listener, and present in the talk.